We fail first inside us than we fail in this world.
Does this sound weird? Let me take you deeper in this.
Last weekend I was sharing Bhagwad Gita quotes. The one I picked to share was when Krishna said to Arjuna
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।
मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि॥ २-४७
The meaning of the verse is—
You have the right to work only but never to its fruits.
Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.
So how does it fit in our life we are so much focused on our goal, things that will bring in our life that we fail to recognise the value of our passion, integrity, hard work, skill.
We Focus on the outcome and the result only.
People when they want to lose weight the first thing they inquire to me is how many months it will take them to lose weight, they ask about the money and in their mind, they have a fixed picture of a figure both money wise and body wise. What they do not see is the learning during that journey, the insights and win of small things. They go on one diet to other, one coaches to other but in nutshell, they see themselves as a failure because of the focus on the end result, money they spend but not on addressing what is that they are holding, how can they become more mindful.
The second example is my work I daily read, write, practice, experiment and create the product with all my wisdom but then I do not have any control once it is launched, if it didn’t get the response it doesn’t mean my work was bad or I am the failure. I try to make it better by giving it time, skill, wisdom and learning. So my main job is to keep an eye on my skill and work. To impoverish it and give it a shape and to maximise its benefits. So failure to me is outside factor not which I can control and neither do I feel the failure in any sense.
So what exactly can you do to not accept that failure in you?
1- Simplicity of things and learning at first. Do not attach goals or result.
2- Who are you without your goal an artist, writer, human?
3- What help and skill you need to develop to attain what you want?
4- Trust the process whole of it.
5- Give your best in every shot and then detach yourself with the result once it’s out but never stop working or believing in your own wisdom and skill.
6- Like a person when in golf after practising for years he shot the ball in competition and once the ball is shot out he loses all the control of it. He moves for the second shot believing again in what he has mastered or skilled himself for years. He will see him as a golfer with or without the championship attached to him.
I personally feel not failing in heart no matter what has made me a warrior, hard worker, disciplined, passionate, courageous and I have learnt to flow in life without attaching myself to success and failure.
I work hard with passion, I change things which are not working but never ever I tag myself as a failure.
If you like this post do comment but then in all my blog and writing at the end, I want people to comment and like but once I post it I detach myself with that expectation too.
That’s why I keep on writing, improving without attaching it to success or goal.